Family-Ministry Update
11 years ago
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
Abby's Tears
There are no pictures to publish with this post, but I'm sure you'll all understand why after reading this. Abby wakes up every night around 3-4 am and needs her diaper changed and to be put back to sleep. Last night she woke up at 3 and just laid on Michael's chest and cried. It wasn't a wail or shrill, just a pitiful heartbreaking cry that ripped our hearts out. We knew that Abby was missing and grieving for her foster mother, the person who has loved and cared for her as if she were her own for the last 13 months. Occasionally Abby would raise her head up and smile at Michael and then lay down again and cry. It's normal to grieve when you have loss, and our baby has just lost everything she has ever known. We prayed for her and cried right along with her. What an angel sent from Heaven that would grieve her loss but still smile at us to let us know it was okay. Please keep our little Abby in your prayers.
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I am so happy to hear that she is finally grieving for that foster mother. That is the best sign for you ever. If she has formed a real attachment with that set of foster parents, it means she can form one with you. When you get back to the US, you will need to be real careful about letting others hold her, etc. She has got to know that you are her parents now. The foster parents are her second set of parents that she has lost. Depending upon how long she was in the orphanage after being found before they moved her to foster care, it could be her third. Hold her and love her as much as possible:)
Good luck!
Ruth
I am praying Abby's grieving does not last long. Our Emily Xian was in foster care, too. She bonded very easily to her new family. Hang in there, all will be ok. she knows she is safe and loved with both of you.
Nana to Emily Xian
another WuWie girl
The third day. I've heard several women say the same thing. It's normal and healthy for her to grieve. Laura went through this also on the third day. She was quiet. Remember Joy comes in the morning. Just love her, hold her smile and pray. God is good my friend. We're praying for you three. Love you, Tammy and Marc
I'm part of the Wuwei Families group and just wanted to let you know I'm praying for you and Abbey. Our Amanda Mae (she was 14 months when she came to us) came home last December and has grieved greatly for her foster mom who must have been 1 amazing woman because you could see how much love and care Amanda Mae had received. Amanda Mae would grieve her loss - mostly in the middle of the night but sometimes also after waking from her nap. She too would just cry and cry and we would just hold her and soothe her the best we could until she was ok. It was very heartbreaking to watch her go through it. She had these episodes every now and than for a few months. They became less frequent over time and she hasn't had any in a long time. I just wanted to express my support and let you know it does get better over time. God Bless You! and thanks for sharing your blog with us.
I know your hearts break for and with Abby. Praise God for the love that she has received in her short lifetime. First from her foster mother and now from her very own mommy and daddy who will love her forever!
Abby's tears are so touching. I have prayed for her to feel secure and loved and a special bond quickly with the two of you, but forgot the grieving process of leaving her foster mother who was obviously good to her. All the more proof God was taking care of her...He did have an angel holding and caring all along for that little one you hold dear. I will pray that the new life with her forever family will comfort her so greatly that the sadness and tears will softly and gently be wiped away. Love, Melinda
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